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Nordy, Which school was this as we are looking for a school for our son.

20/09/2011 00:00:55
Maggie

I too had the same problem with a dyspraxic son at the end of Primary school who was bullied, laughed at and made to feel a fool. I was VERY careful about which Secondary school he attended. He was a brilliant scholar with a very high IQ who just couldn't get his work written down. I fought and fought and got him a Statement. I interviewed the SENCOS at 5 different schools until I found one who really understood. That school, although not good academically was the making of him. He had s support assistant for some lessons, used a laptop for his work and was allowed to progress at his own speed (which was fast). The SENCO arranged swimming lessons to help his coordination, made sure he wasn't made to feel foolish ion PE and a great form tutor who explained dyspraxia to the class and really supported him. My son was happier than he'd ever been and built up a really good group of friend who accepted him for how and who he was. He came out with 14 GCSEs and % A levels and has just completed a Masters degree and has got his first job which starts next week (coincidentally at his University). Get that SENCO right and your son will enjoy school at last.

12/09/2011 22:52:40
nordy

Sorry to hear that you are feeling so sad and frustrated for your son. My son is thirteen now and has dyspraxia alongside his mild aspergers. The school have been quite good in streaming the children at four different levels according to their sporting abilities so that he dosn't feel so different amongst his group. I wonder if your sons school does this. His group have limited catching, throwing skills etc, so the games are kept really simple, like throwing a bean bag through a large hoop etc. The emphasis is not so much on being competitive but just enjoying themselves because there is something they CAN do.

04/08/2011 13:07:24
martyc

Charlotte, you posted in response to the original post in this thread. It would be so helpful to hear of your experience. You mention that you have Dyspraxia but yet are now at University. What has been the key to your success given the challenges that you have no doubt experienced? Your story and/or advice may help many of the younger kids coming along (like my son) who have Dyspraxia and may reassure some of us mothers that our children will be able to have successful lives regardless of their challenges. I would love to hear more from you.

30/06/2011 22:09:03
Taya

Thank you for sharing your feelings about your son. It is so helpful to read of another person having such feelings because I (and I am sure many other mums out there) totally can identify with what you are feeling. My son was diagnosed with Dyspraxi at age 4 - he is now almost 9. Although not yet in highschool, we are already battling the effects of social challenges - the being left out, the bullying. My son is such a loving, gentle, social boy who so wants to have friends but yet because of the many challenges with Dyspraxia really has never had any. As a mother it is heart breaking - I get angry, I cry a lot and I worry a lot about his future and I can totally identify with you feeling isolated and not being able to talk to other mothers. Sometimes, I find I feel so much anger towards these other mothers in the sense that I truly believe it is impossible to know what it is like to be the parent of a child with Dyspraxia and/or other learning disabilities. Friends may often say ...''oh he will be fine'' ..but at days end they have no clue about the heartbreak and the fear of what lies ahead in life for my son.

30/06/2011 22:06:23
Taya

I can talk to you about this - hopefully you have gone through to the other side but if you still look at this site message me and i'll happily share. I have felt the same before and im sur we'll be there again at some time x

20/06/2011 23:09:45
amanda Harris

Hi,

I'm really sorry to hear about what you're both going through with your sons. I have dyspraxia as well and struggled at school, although I'm now at university.

Have you tried talking talking to their teachers about this? Also, have you tried maybe encouraging your children to join a hobby or club that they're interested in, where they might meet children who have similiar interests? Or maybe join a dyspraxia support group?

I hope things get better.

15/12/2010 20:28:41
Charlotte

Hi

I just wanted to say I really feel for you. My five year old is starting to feel the effect of dyspraxia on his social life and is finding it harder to interact than before. Your son is so lucky to have such a supportive mother. I wonder if you have tried therapy to help him discuss his feelings and vent a bit.

18/10/2010 23:56:06
Dyspraxicmum

My gorgeous son is coming to the end of his primary school years. He has become increasingly isolated at school. He has no friends inspire of the fact that he is kind and loving. His dispraxia however means that he finds it difficult to contribute easily in school life and his 'gaffs' make it him an object of ridicule. My problem is that I feel angry and frustrated - deeply angry that people are ostracising him and frustrated at my son for his condition. I feel isolated as well as I cannot share the everyday things with oth Mums as my son doesn't,t do sport like everyone else and is out of the social scene. I tried to talk to a friend at school but she doesn't,t understand. I am so worried for his future as he has so much to offer but I see a lonely future for him...

06/07/2010 22:16:48
Wyrdsister (Member)