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hello.

i have 3 children, 1 has dyslexia and the other 2 have dyspraxia.

my eldest child, a boy, now aged 19 didn't seem to be as immature as my youngest child, a girl aged 11. both have dyspraxia.

my daughter will be going to senior school in september and i am very concerned about how she will cope? she seems so much younger than her peers. she has a very short attention span and easily becomes obsessed with things and talks about them constantly. she sometimes talks to herself. she still struggles with dressing/buttons/hair brushing etc. she has never learned to ride a bike or even use a scooter, but has learned to swim. she seems to behave as a child 5 years younger than her should?

she is very happy and content and is doing okay at school but seems to be in her own little world.

she also started going through puberty at 8 which has been a challenge. beacause of this she is much taller and more developed than her friends.

she was diagnosed aged 5 or 6 and had 6 months of sensory therapy but it just didnt seem enough?

i was wondering whether we should arrange some councilling for her but don't know where to start?

can anyone offer any advice?

06/01/2011 10:31:22
di

help 12 year old son with dyspraxia,finding it very hard to cope with the anger tantrums,

11/01/2011 21:44:50
fiona

hi my daughter is 13 next month and has all the same'symptoms' as your daughter .She is the kindest caring person but struggles socially other girls at her school think she is a baby and to be honest she is more like a 8 or 9 year old.She doesn't really show any interest in what teenage girls do she is obsessed with our animals and talks or bores everyone with it all the time.She likes to read and is obsessed with books.She cannot skip,ride a bike,tie her shoelaces,so p.e. is a struggle and other girls just laugh at her she cannot even brush her own hair so i have to tie her hair back for p.e.,cookng,etc as she cannot tie it in a pony tail.The school are not very helpful they just think im an over anxious parent as she is well behaved but is very immature and has no idea what the other girls or boys are talking about and as she has not been officially diagnosed it is difficult to get help.Her drawings are that of a 5 yesr old and cannot open bottles or cans or use a knife and fork properly.

08/04/2011 20:48:33
jenny

My daughter is going to secondary school next year.She has dyslexia, dyspraxia and ADHD and Autism. The description of your daughters sounds very similar to my daughter. She has a statement at school and therefore one to one help. Coucelling is usually from your local CAMS GP can refer.

If you haven't got a diagnosis I would try and get one then you will get extra help at school.

Speak to your schools SENCO (some are better than others) extra help is usually available if you ask and don't take no for an answer. for example my daughter has had social skill lessons on how to talk to others.

Goodluck!

26/04/2011 22:01:11
Nicola Bamber

My daughter is 7 and has just been diagnosed with Dyspraxia. She is also having problems with friends and seems immature socially and emotionally.

As with your daughter she is already starting to show signs of premature puberty.

I am not really sure I understand the link between the emotional and social problems and Dyspraxia but have heard that they are common.

I don't really have any practical advice as we are only just starting to understand the issues our daughter has but was interested to compare your experience with ours.

02/05/2011 08:11:55
AlisonJP

hi my daughter was diognosed with add dypraxia and also she is dyslexic, i`m at my wits end at the moment severe mood swings, personal hygene or lack of it, she is very immature for her age, and often finds younger children easier to get along with than girls her own age, will it get any easier as i feel we are a family in turmoil

20/05/2011 23:27:38
Linda Storey

I am 53 and not officially diagnosed with dyspraxia although im sure ive had it since birth. I just want to address the point about the connection between dyspraxia and emotional difficulties from my own experience. From my earliest memories in kindergarden I was unable to join in the play of the group or the things they did that seemed admirable like catching a ball or kicking a football. I remember being more and more aware and ashamed that I was different and somehow 'inferior' to the other children - and this only got worse as I was laughed at or shunned by other children for my clumsy attempts at joining in or other dyspraxia induced humiliations. I think those years between say 4 and 12 are crucial for the self image and confidence hard wired into the growing child and this is where dyspraxia can lead to shame, trauma, and bullying that really do damage. I was so mortally ashamed as a child I would never have brought it up to my parents at the time. I think a dangerous thing about dyspraxia is that it doesnt affect intelligence and the child can appear normal, but slack or not trying or just indadequate and both other children and adults tend to jump to negative conclusions - further reflecting badly into the dyspraxic childs self image. In adult life ive remained single, struggled very hard to keep a job, and have been constantly misunderstood and judged including by long term former friends. In adult life confidence opens doors and gets one a hand up by other people - but without it doors close and indifference and disrespect is often the order of the day. My main advice would be to do everything possible to help the young child understand what is happening and that it is not their inner essence at fault (their intelligence and character) and that they shouldnt be ashamed or discouraged because they are experiencing difficulties. And do everything to stop bullying in schools.

21/05/2011 14:38:42
Jack

Hi

My 18 year old son is dyspraxic, but he always plays to his strengths and has a group of friends mainly younger or older who except him.

2 positive things that happrned to him he saw an excellent child psychiatrist, who liased with school. Following on from what Jack said, he explained that football in the playground was an important part of social interaction, and explained this as part of his social problem. My son at secondary school collected a gang of odd kids of mixed ages and arranged aplace for them to hang out. He was better at talking to the headteacher than his piers

Secondly at the age of 12 he finally learned to swim. He now swims for the North West disability team along with well known paralympians. He is now a better swimmer than his non dyspraxic peers.

So belief in yourself as a parent and your child will bring success

22/05/2011 16:41:20
Nicola

I am a mother of 5 and my 4th child, a girl, was diagnosed with dyslexia in march of 2010. We are trying to get her into a local school for children with dyslexia but might be refused because she is very much immature for her age. She is 10 1/2, a willing learner, a people pleaser but no friends because of how she acts. The sad thing is that she knows she acts different and always says she wants to be normal. It is very exhausting at times because as a parent you don't know what to do. The school she attends now just seems to be pushing her through the system ( and she even has an IEP )I ask myself why are more and more kids having these issues. Is there a way to make their life easier?

03/08/2011 05:00:47
Dawn Scanlon