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Communication skills
Hey everybody. Hope you're all well.
I'm a 22-year-old male Masters student. Sadly though I've had a lot of problems at uni in the last year. I've never really been able to make friends with guys. I know it sounds daft but, I'm a bit scared of them. My friends (the few I've had) have always been girls. Sadly that gets a little complicated when you start to confuse your felings. Friendship's kind of new to me and I don't understand whether someone is being my friend or fancies me. One girl for example always calls me 'hun', but she does that with everyone, and I wrongly assume she likes me. I haven't had a relationship or done any kissing/hand holding etc with a girl before, so I don't really have anything to go on. With regret, this confusion cost me the few friends at university I had, and I've lost the confidence to go out and make new ones.
I am joining an amature theatre group now, to try make some new friends in my home town, away from the campus. At uni some of the students are really over the top and, to be honest, hard to predict. I have 3 friends left, all of whom are girls, and I still get confused because I think I have feelings for them when I probably should just have them as friends. Then I get nervous talking to them and say the wrong things - even if I'm just trying to be a friend.
There's a girl I like on my course. Our lectures are few and far between at the mo, so I try say hello and stuff after classes, but get all nervous and seem to litterally dash for the exit. Someone commented on this the other day. I said hello to the girl, a couple of lines and then left really quickly. I think she's a lost caused to be honest. She doesn't seem keen to talk to me anyway.
I know there's a lot here but, I'm really, REALLY bad at social skills stuff. Any help people can give would be great. All I want is to find a couple of people that get me. I guess i need to except myself too, and get used to the idea that having a disability isn't my fault.
24/04/2010 16:45:44
StraightEdgeJoe
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